I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
WE DO NOT SIT WITH OUT LEGS SPREAD BECAUSE WE WANT TO ‘SEXUALLY DOMINATE THE SCENE’ OR WHATEVER BULLCRAP YOU WANT TO COME UP WITH.
WE SIT LIKE THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE TESTICLES IN THE MIDDLE THAT ARE FUCKING SENSITIVE TO HEAT AND PRESSURE, MAKING IT MORE COMFORTABLE TO SPREAD OUR LEGS.
WE CLOSE OURS WHEN YOU ‘IMITATE’ US BECAUSE WE REALISE YOU WANT MORE SPACE AND SO WE BE POLITE AND GIVE IT TO YOU
WE SIT LIKE THIS ANYWHERE
HOW ARE WE OPRESSING YOU WHEN WE SIT LIKE THIS ON OUR OWN, IN PRIVATE?
NOT EVERYTHING IS THE GODDAMN PATRIARCHY
You dude, calm down a bit.
This is fine:
This is ‘crotch display’:
Basically, you can have your shoulder width. Then your balls have room and you’re not being rude. Everybody’s happy.
So I’m not a fan of taking photos of people’s faces without their permission, but someone summed things up quite nicely for me.
See that third guy? Now imagine him sitting in the middle with his hands on either side of him. THAT is how that guy was sitting. It was a full train. There were no empty seats except the three he was occupying. People were standing. I worked 14 hours that day. I wanted to sit down. I was exhausted and had a couple hours I could catch some sleep before turning around and working another 14 hours. So I sat down because no one needs three seats on a full train.
No one is saying you can’t sit with your knees a little apart. This post was never about the anatomy of your balls. No one is asking you to sit with your knees crossed. I made a post chatting about my day and this one irritating dude on the subway. I never expected it to go viral. If I thought for one second it’d become a popular post I would have proof read that sucker and maybe added more details for context. But for all of the people who keep sending me messages complaining about their penis, this post was never about your anatomy. This post was about subway etiquette. If the train is empty, sprawl to your hearts content. In your own home I don’t care if you do the splits on your couch. In fact I hope you do that because that’s awesome. This is about people who feel they’re entitled to multiple seats on full trains while they watch other people stand.
Do women behave poorly on the subway? Sure. Most commonly I see women put bags on seats next to them instead of letting people sit. But when I see someone sprawled out on a full train like the seats are in their living room, it is almost always a man. That does not mean people think ALL men do this. 96% of the people who ride the subway are awesome. (Yay, you!) 4% are jerks. So, unless you’re someone who sprawls out on all the seats when other people are standing, or you’re someone who sits next to another passenger and shoves them into the corner so you can spread your knees as far as possible, or you’re someone who uses their fellow passenger’s hipbone as an arm rest, then this post wasn’t about you. It’s not an attack on YOU and your anatomy.
I live in New York City. The majority of our population takes the subway. People spend hours on the subway every day. Just don’t be a jerk. Be the 96% who are awesome.